Forgiveness
You may have heard it said on many occasions to turn the other cheek or be forgiving. Let's get some perspective on that.
Speaking openly I will say I have been victimized in several different way over different ages of my life. Each one whole new set of how can someone else control, abuse, use, destroy. Starting from the very beginning of my life. Abuse from family, neighbors, schools friends, husbands, and strangers. Just when you get a grip on one form of it, some tool somewhere comes up with a whole new other way to step in out of nowhere to give it another go. If my words sounds callous and harsh, forgive, they come from a place of working it out the hard way, never the less, it got worked out in this manner, I prevailed into joy.
Like the Nautilus, each segment of our life is a building block to who we are/become. What we allow to stay in those segment is our own personal choice. This Blook is about cleaning out every segment to attain the you that you want to be.
If someone has used, abused, or hurt you repeatedly, and they were processed and judged for their crimes, then keeping them out of your future will prevent them from repeating the process. That is intelligent thinking. In the past the term ‘be forgiving’ has been switched to make victims stay in the victim mode. Let me clarify. Being a victim is 8 times out of 10 a choice you made. If your friend, boss, Paramore or parents abuse you and you accept it the question is WHY? Did you TRULY feel that there was no other choice? Did you believe you deserved it? Is that what they said? Did you go to your other friends repeatedly for advice and help only to fall back into the abuse? Here is the Elephant in the room question for you. Why did you abuse YOURSELF by going back repeatedly?
(They) can only SAY they can hurt you. If you believe them, that is your issue. They cannot hurt you. Only you can allow them to by giving them the power.
Forgiveness is about you. Forgive yourself for being managed and victimized by choosing a path that includes you, growth, elevation, here and now and how these events shaped the person you are now and intend to be going forward.
This is a set of mind, and energy. A group focus setting with non PC talk with honesty and intent will accelerate your process of empowerment and strength.
You owe nothing to anyone
You owe yourself everything
Trust is important. Not in anyone else, but yourself. Trust yourself to be strong to keep your power.
Step 3
In your journal create a mantra for yourself. A mantra is an affirmation that you keep in mind or repeat yourself to be reminded of your importance. Research some and choose one that suits you now or create one that you feel suits you the best. Mantra’s can change and you can have many.
Here is a link that might help explain creating your personal mantra.
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