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When You are Ready - A Self - Healing path to BE-ing

If / Then Thinking

This is a very simple way to look at things and isn’t taught in schools or even homes anymore. Here are some examples.

If you hit your finger with a hammer, then it will hurt.  See how simple that is.

If you drive recklessly, then you could be responsible for hurting someone.

If you don’t work on healing yourself, then you will stay miserable.  OUCH! Think about it.

Like the Nautilus, each segment of our life is a building block to who we are/become. What we allow to stay in those segment is our own personal choice. This Book is about cleaning out every segment to attain the you that you want to be.

Of course there is a lot of middle of the road here. Let's give that some wide berth for now. Why? Because it can lead to rationalization, passing the buck, and enabling yourself to continue on a path of acting before thinking.

If you don't hold yourself to a high moral standard, then what boundaries have you really set?

Let's make this an extreme example

You have been asked to pick something up for someone. Sounds like a nice thing to do, help another out.

However, that nice thing entails going into a very high crime area of town. As you weigh it out in your head you rationalize that you can't say something to your friend about this because they go there all the time and they are alright. How rude to make a comment to them about it. So you go. And you get into trouble. Is your friend responsible? Are they your friend anymore because now you are hurt and furious that you have been victimized and they aren't taking the blame? Hmm. Would it have been easier to say to your friend that you have no desire to be put into a bad situation that you are not equipped to manage. If they get mad, there's your answer. They never were your friend. BOUNDARIES!! Make them.

Step 15

Write out your boundaries. What they are and why they are. Put them in terms if/then if possible.

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